A Bump on the Road to get Preggers.

Well deciding to have a baby I guess was nice thing to do because I know many people who actually don't get a chance to do that. Let's just say that some couples are fortunate or unfortunate ( totally a perception) to be parents even before they can say for the first time to their spouses "Happy Anniversary Honey!!". Well in my perception (which is important here because it's my blog) is that a child is a blessing whenever and however it comes. So if anyone gets their first anniversary gift as a bundle of joy I feel it is a wonderful thing.

Getting back to Phase 1 of Project Baby... First thing we did was I went to my doctor and got started on a prenatal vitamins. After "trying" for a few months Project Baby didn't seem to be taking off as expected. I started getting worried because me being a little bit (okay more than just a little) of a control freak, I had already secretly planned out the time by which we would be parents. So I couldn't contain my disappointment as to why things weren't happening as planned.  We went to the doctor again and I was told that we need to give it more time and that things would take off when the time is right. However in my mind I was already beginning to think about fertility experts and everything.

Sensing my concern (and I guess impatience too) the doctor suggested that we run a few basic tests just for my satisfaction. Me and AJ went for our tests. Everything was normal with AJ but when they did a scan for me they saw a small complication. Something very common among ladies today. My doctor assured me that since it was just a slight indication and since I have found out early it wouldn't be much of a problem and that I would have to take medicines and it would be just fine. She mentioned that this can be a reason as to why it must be taking us time to conceive, but I was assured there was nothing to worry and things would be perfectly fine.
Having known what the reason for the delay was a relief but what happened in the period after the "diagnosis" put my relief out the window. I would say the person who suffered the most was AJ.... you'll soon see why in my next post.

As a apart of my blog I thought I would give my personal insight and stuff I learnt on all pregnancy related stuff. So you will see a few tips and trivia in further posts.

Tips for when you decide to have a baby

• Discuss with your spouse about starting a family -Starting a family is a very important decision for a couple because it is a life changing one. So being consciously prepared a new person in the family will definitely help you get through your pregnancy and child birth much easier. There might be a lot of things to consider like even financials. You really ought to know if you can afford to have a baby.

• Preparing your body - It is good to preparing your body before conceiving. It is the primary responsibility of the mother to keep her health in check. It would be good if you can get to an ideal weight before you conceive. Eating nutritious food and avoiding any sort of alcohol, tobacco or drugs is very important. You should visit your doctor for prenatal vitamins. Many would ask why do you have to start on medicines even before you get pregnant. The baby's neural tube which becomes the brain and spinal cord starts developing in the very first month of pregnancy and most of the time before you even realize you are pregnant so taking these vitamin help prevent neural tube defects. Even men should prepare their bodies before they try to conceive. They must eat healthy and cut down on alcohol and tobacco as this lead to defects in sperm production. Men can find a few more interesting tips in the link. http://www.pregnancywyze.com/how-to-get-pregnant/pre-pregnancy-diet-for-men/

• Stay happy and be relaxed- This is the most important thing because a stressful mind equates to stressed out body and it makes it more difficult to perform. So I would suggest meditation to relax yourselves. A good massage. Let all that tension go away. When your making your baby it should be a baby that is made out of the love that both of you have for each other and nothing else should come in between that. No stress from work and other issues. Leave all that behind and just enjoy being with each other. Prayer is also a wonderful way to reconnect with your inner selves during this time.

** Please note these are only opinions and suggestions given from my experience. Please do not take it as advice from an expert in the field of prenatal health.

The Mommy in my DNA

Me being in a career that is extremely demanding I always imagined that I would have children when I felt I was settled career wise. I thought I would wait till I felt I could afford to take the responsibility of motherhood. In spite of me being very passionate about what I do, babies have always been a kind of weakness. I could melt at the sight of those cute adorable things. Anywhere I would go if I could spot a cutie in the vicinity I was sure to be making funny faces just to make them giggle or laugh. Though my friends would be going...."Female!!! What are you doing? This is a public place and that's somebody's kid!!"... That could never stop me.... :D

I guess its that weakness that got me thinking (in my 11th month of marriage) of motherhood. My maternal traits in my DNA just hit me. I really wanted to be a mom. Even though I've always thought and wanted babies because of their unabashed yummy cuteness, but being a mother was a whole other story.

Luckily for me having an elder sister did help me a lot. Seeing how she went through the whole motherhood phase gave me a gist of  what motherhood could be like. Let me tell you, not a piece of cake. I realized behind all the kissing on the chubby cheeks and making noises on their tummies, there were sleepless night, picky eating, endless tantrums etc.. Maybe I guess for many being a mother is just a part of the vocation of womanhood and I guess that was the reason I was sooooo ready for it.

But as you know this isn't a one person kinda job. My husband AJ being in a similar profession as mine was surprisingly very ready to be a dad too. Why I say surprising is because like me he too is a person who is very dedicated to his work and you can say kind of a workaholic. He was also ready and we were like... "Let's do this!!!"

So began our new phase of life which I would like to call "Project Baby". But little did we know that Project Baby wasn't gonna be like any of the projects we've ever taken up.

Babylogue Initiation

Sitting in my bedroom and just waiting and waiting for the D day I have decided to grace the digital world and all those connected to be bestowed upon by a few words of wisdom, from moi of course!! :D Well rather than just me thinking about the things I think I thought it would be better if I immortalized it on my blog. Well my previous blog wasn't such a  great success because I never could commit to it. Well I hope this time I am more dedicated because its about this special time in my life which I know now will be a very much an extended period of time.

Well I am a soon to be mom waiting for the day my baby arrives. During this time I have been prepping myself for this new phase which I feel is something I've desired my whole life. I know there are a lot of people out there who are waiting for this phase in life and some people who think why do people even do it. This blog might be for both of you. Sharing of my experiences might help you see how amazing a journey it can be and sometimes its not as bad as it seems.... and sometimes maybe it might be as bad as it seems... :D

So here I am about to start my journey with my blog.... which I guess I'd like to call my babylogue (I know its not a real word... but who knows it might be the next word to get into the dictionary)... :)